“It is patience that has always been the true gauge and measure of the greatness of a person’s soul.”
– Richard Rudd
The opposite of impatience is not patience.
Patience implies waiting.
Waiting for something that you want.
Something that your (ir)rational mind prefers to your present moment, which is your life: the perpetual now.
Your life is experienced in the perpetual now, with your brain storing information as you do so, pausing only to rest the physical body in sleep, where you may/may not also store information from your astral body when you dream.
The opposite of impatience then, is surely perfect presence.
Do not be scared by the presence of ‘perfect’ within ‘perfect presence’.
Perfect simply implies presence without preference(s) competing with said presence.
“The Great Way (Tao) is not difficult for those who have no preferences.”
– The third Chinese patriarch of Zen
You are not waiting. You do not wait.
For what? For whom?
That which you desire, which is your calling – however conscious or unconscious that may be – is waiting for you.
Waiting for you to align with you in perfect presence where, when there, you’ve already arrived.
Sure, there’s probably work for you to do.
But it’s only from that place of alignment that the path of details (‘work’) makes itself apparent to your (ir)rational left-hemisphere domineering, thus maladaptive, mind.
Why am I qualified to speak on patience?
Qualified (adjective) meaning: officially recognized as being trained to perform a particular job; certified.
Well, by that definition, I’m not – obviously. As there’s no governing body that certifies who can or cannot talk about – or on – things; nor should they be, as that’s one of the most Orwellian ideas ever.
However I have, do and will continue to contend with patience – or said more accurately, impatience – as a constant underlying theme in this life of mine. Why?
To help me communicate this, I will refer to a creation of Richard Rudd’s, a creator I admire greatly, called the Gene Keys.

Whether you’re familiar or not, it does not matter. In order to steer clear from anything not relevant to this contemplation, we will focus on that bottom-most circle – the sphere of Purpose.
My purpose
When contemplating your Purpose, Rudd states that it can often come as a relief to realise that purpose does not put us under any pressure to achieve or attain anything – rather it is about resting more deeply in a quality that already lies within us.
“Think of yourself at your most relaxed and you will have an idea of what your life might look like lived through this sense of higher purpose.”
By higher purpose, as much as that’s a woo-woo word phrase, he’s simply making a distinction away from what we think of when we think of purpose; as, when we hear that word, we think of what we’re here to do.
Do. Doing.
Doing, however, is a by-product of our being.
Purpose is not about what we are here to do. It’s about the quality of our consciousness. When contemplating the Gene Key of your Purpose, which is the bottom-most sphere at the root of the spine of activation, you must think about it as the aroma of your deepest inner essence. The true purpose hidden in your DNA that gets unlocked by life as you evolve through the challenges that life presents you.
With the Gene Keys, there are 3 levels, let’s say, to each Gene Key. A shadow level, a gift level (unlocked through awareness, acceptance and allowing the shadow’s presence), and a siddhi (divine essence).
The sphere of my Purpose is Gene Key 5.
Gene Key 5: the ending of time
Siddhi = timelessness
Gift = patience
Shadow = impatience
One of the hardest things for a human being to experience is the simple wonder of being itself. The shadow of your Purpose prevents you from experiencing that wonder.
The shadow of your Purpose works at an unconscious level to pull you away from the simple joy of being alive.
Due to the depth of this shadow pattern it’s often hard to see it at work but it will consistently work to unsettle you.
“Core stability is about being able to respond, but at the shadow frequency we do not respond – we react – we react out of our instability because we do not feel safe and aligned with our core or with nature. Reaction also perpetuates the low frequency pattern in the world because it tends to trigger other people’s instability. Thus, it is a rare thing to meet a person living out their higher purpose in life.”
– Richard Rudd